What’s Your Major?

Relationships can be some tricky business.

The greatest desire of our hearts is to enjoy loving and harmonious relationships, but a lot of us still struggle. We want to see peace on earth but some days we can’t even create peace in our own homes, or worse, our own minds.

There are several major areas in life where humans find challenges: Financial, physical, emotional, spiritual, relationships, and Comcast.

Except for the last one, which is universal, the rest are sort of individualized courses of study, which is the “major” we selected when we came to earth school.

I am majoring in relationships with a minor in financial.

The relationship struggle for me is very real. No matter how controlling and nagging I become, I can’t seem to get all the people around me to act right.

And finances.

There are student loans and kind of a weensy shopping thing.

It hasn’t been easy for me to become the billion dollar entrepreneur of my fantasies with my pesky full-time teaching job getting in the way.

The thing about earth school is that some people seem to skate through. The rest of us feel like we may have accidentally signed up for advanced courses. But even though I feel constantly challenged by the material and some of my professors have been real jerks, I am still working hard and studying diligently and starting to see some progress.

I once heard a smart person say that you can use the areas you are strong in to help you make gains in your weaker areas. Figure out what you are doing right and then do it right in a different area.

This is coming in handy.

For example, I am blessed that physical health is my area of strength.

I easily stay a reasonable weight, and live almost completely illness and accident free. (If this is your area of struggle I can feel you flipping me off with the middle finger of your mind.) I work out every week, so I can save money every week. I can go on a date with my husband every week. See what I mean?

The point is, If we are successful in one area, we can be successful in another.

After decades of study, which are like semesters in earth school, I had a breakthrough that works in any area of struggle or challenge.

Trying as I do to avoid hyperbole, I believe I have made an Einstein-esque discovery that although controversial, will change the course of human development and possibly save mankind from complete and utter self destruction.

The formula is this:

smart choices

______________       = good results

time

We all know exactly what to do. We know that we should save some money, work out, make date nights, go back to school, or stop smoking. We just either don’t do it or we don’t do it for long enough to get results.

The consistency with which we don’t do dumb stuff is the key.

Its math. And it works. Every. Single. Time.

The smartest choices come from the heart. The choice to be loving to myself during my struggles is my saving grace. I don’t have to get straight A’s. I just have to keep showing up. I just have to find the faith to believe that I am worth loving, even when I don’t get it right and that in time, I will get better.

I am so humbled by the loving relationships in my life.I now enjoy a beautiful, loving, intimate and fun relationship with my darling husband. My relationships with my grown sons and step-daughter, my parents, my sweet sister, are the treasures of my life.

I have a small savings account and a debt reduction plan. I do mostly smart stuff now.

I’m so proud. I am doing it. I’m not straight A’s but I am passing.

And I still have the hope that I will graduate and that through grace, I will do it with honors.